In this post we’re going to be talking about living in your 20’s and Selfish Decisions To Make In Your 20’s to improve your lifestyle and get the most out of your 20’s.
Selfish Decisions to make in your 20's
I gave writing about this topic a lot of thought because when people see the word selfish they always want to assume it is negative or often assume the worst. So I decided to write it anyways, because it is such an important topic. I am still in my 20’s, yet I wish I knew about these earlier, I wish I had someone to tell me these things. Probably I’ll have made some decisions earlier if I knew. So let’s talk about Selfish Decisions To Make In Your 20’s.
In your 20’s you’re still a baby trying to discover life, trying to figure things out, trying to get your life together and decide what you want. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise or convince you that you’re supposed to have it all figured out or be a billionaire or anything. You’re only growing and shaping your life for your 30’s and above.
In your 20’s you’re going to have to make decisions that might hurt people or make people not to be so happy with you, to be able to get to where you want to be. These are the time where you need to take on challenges and take the necessary risks that will shape the rest of your life. So that is what i mean when i named this post ”selfish decision to make in your 20’s”. Your 20’s are the time where you’re allowed to make mistakes, try things, fail and try again. Try with career, education, business and love. Don’t Let Anything Or Anyone Hold You Back.
” Your 20’s are your ‘selfish’ years. It’s a to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. be selfish with your time, and all the aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground.”
– Kyoko Escamilla
1. Move out and move away from your city
My first selfish decision when it comes to making Selfish Decisions To Make In Your 20’s is one of the scariest things for most people and that is moving out of your parent’s house and moving away to a different environment. Especially if you feel like your city/home town or environments limits you to achieve certain goals, my love get up and move away.
I know it is a very hard decision, but when you know you want more for yourself, it is an important step to decide to move away. Most especially if you feel there isn’t enough opportunity for you to become the woman you dream of becoming. Even if you just want to explore, that is exactly what you should be doing in your 20’s either way.
One thing I definitely know because I experienced this myself too is that finances, where to move to, how to move, all play a big role in this. Making this harder to just get up and do. But make sure you plan yourself and believe me you’ll get it done. In your 20’s you don’t have huge commitments like career, husband or children pulling you back. Unlike in your 30’s where you probably have a lot more to consider, this is why now is the best time.
Just try it out because what is the worst that could possibly happen. Truth is the more you procrastinate, the more you loos time and we all know time flies and Time is something that you can’t get back. Worst case scenario you realize it’s not for you and move back home, but you’ll be able to proudly say you were once in that city or country.
2. Quit that shitty job
Another selfish decision to make in your 20’s is to quit that shitty job you do not enjoy. This could be another hard decision because obviously you need the money. But would you rather be in a job that emotionally and mentally drains you where you spent the past 3 years and feel like you’re trapped there. The more you stay, the harder it gets for you to leave. Leave that job if it doesn’t serve your purpose, if you feel like it doesn’t make you happy, if you know deep down it’s not worth it.
In your 20’s you need to explore different opportunities. If you’ve tried a 9-5 and you realize it’s not for you, try starting a business. Even when you try starting a business and you realize it’s not for you, try social media. My point is there are tons of things to do and your 20’s are too short to be stuck in a shitty job that you hate.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you have to go to school, graduate and spend the rest of your life working a 9-5 in an office. You don’t even necessarily need to get a job related to what you studied, we all know how parents can push you to study what you don’t even love or enjoy doing. There’s nothing wrong with trying new career paths. Or even trying several career paths, you can monetize almost anything these days.
You don’t need to listen to people telling you you’re hopping around that you do not know what you want to do with your life. Yes! you are and that is what you’re 20’s are for, figuring out what you want to do in life. Don’t let anyone shame you for trying to find yourself and your purpose in life. If somewhere or someone isn’t serving you, pushing or empowering you, you do not need to be there.
3. Prioritize your mental health
The third one on the list of selfish Decisions To Make In Your 20s is to prioritize your mental health. This I cannot stress this enough, set strong personal boundaries. I talk about personal boundaries so many times. Prioritize the decisions you make. Whether it is the decision to move to a different city or even if it is standing by your decision to quit that job one month after you started, because it’s not for you even though you struggled to get it in the first place.
That is self care, you should be able to tell yourself even though you struggled to get to a certain point, once you realize it isn’t what you want you should be able to walk away.
Don’t let anyone shame you for prioritizing your mental health. If someone isn’t okay with you doing what is best for you, feel free to cut them off. Your 20’s come with a lot of pressure from family and society to get your life together. There’s a lot of pressure already, so make sure you prioritize your mental health. It is so so easy to fall into depression and anxiety in your 20’s because you feel overwhelmed with everything that is asked and expected of you.
Just please baby prioritize your mental health, make sure it is one of the decisions you make in your 20’s. Because no one should be more important than YOU to yourself.
4. Settling down & having kids in your 20's
Now this step might not be for everyone, personally I am a strong believer of when you find the right person and your mentally ready to settle down then you should. But if you’re not ready for a relationship in your 20’s, do not get into a relationship in your 20’s. If you do not want kids in your 20’s then don’t do it. Do not let the pressure of family, friends, social media or this idea of how society makes you believe life should be, push you to do things you’re not ready for.
Don’t be pressured to settle down or start having kids left and right when you haven’t done your inner work, when you haven’t healed from past traumas or relationships. You still haven’t found your way and purpose in life and you think you can bring another life into this world and guide them through life? Absolutely not.
People make the selfish decision to not get married or have kids in their 20’s for different selfish reasons. People will try to tell you you have to settle down in your 20’s otherwise later you’ll be too old or your eggs will fall off or whatever nonsense it is. Truth is the only right time is when you are ready. Don’t rush into a marriage that’ll make you depressed for the rest of your life.
Now don’t get me wrong if you are in your 20’s and you are ready for commitment, go for it. But when it comes to having kids, even if you get married in your 20’s you still do not have to rush into having children, because once you have children your life is no longer only your own. So it is totally okay to live your life while you still can.
5. Unapologetically cutting people off
This step is definitely a hard one, I know for a fact that I struggled with this a lot, and still struggle with this till today. But I eventually mastered the art of detachment. Not everyone you meet or everyone you love is meant to stay in your life forever, some people are just a lesson, some people you will always love, some were never meant to be. But once you develop the mindset of people come and go and life always goes on, you will find this easier to do.
Because the truth is and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, if you pass away today, your loved ones will mourn you and eventually keep on living their life. They will be hurt of course but they won’t cry forever because life goes on, bills keep coming, tomorrow always comes, so you’re allowed to cut off people that you don’t want in your life anymore.
Do not let anyone tell you that it is selfish to cut people off, people that are clearly disrespecting you, people that are clearly not serving you or making your life hell.
Friendships in your 20’s is very very crucial, if you have the wrong people around you, you could get completely lost. Intentionally picking who you let into your life and into your personal space is crucial. If you see that someone isn’t respecting you or your boundaries or someone is being toxic, cut them off without explaining yourself most times.
Sometimes you can have a conversation to let them know the friendship is over but most times just go away and that is fine. It is being selfish, but it is a good kind of selfish because you are prioritizing your peace and your mental health. Friendships in your 20’s can either make you or break you. Friendships in your 20’s can sink you, if you’re mixed with the wrong people.
Understand that friendship isn’t by force. You cannot die for friendships and relationships, if it is toxic or not serving you, you leave! You do not have to keep explaining yourself, chasing people or begging people to treat you right or love you the way you want to be loved. If someone isn’t treating you right is because they don’t want to.
People have a brain and a mind of their own and know right from wrong, and it is okay to be selfish and decide this isn’t what you want for yourself. Focus more on protecting your peace, your growth, your happiness, your mental health and yourself.
In conclusion, in your 20’s make sure you are the most important thing to you. Your 20’s are said to be the best years of your life and it would be a shame if you waste those years living your life to please others. It is okay to be selfish as long as it is beneficial to you. Most of all try to enjoy life to the fullest, go on dates, take trips, start businesses, try and fail and try again! And most importantly be happy!
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